So…I’m likely spewing this based on a wave of pain.
In a couple of months, I am likely not going to agree with what I currently think, and I will read this post and laugh at myself. But that’s the beauty of life, situations change, life pans out, people evolve. I’m simply sharing so I can get sh*t off my chest.
So here goes;
I believe that love exists.
Between a mother and her child,
Between a father and his offspring.
Even between siblings.
But between two adults of opposite sexes…
Love is a lie.
Calmly put the stone down and hear me out first. That’s it…easy now…drop it gently…there you go. Now breathe…okay. As I was saying,
I believe there are 5 things involved in romantic relationships.
A combination of the above makes people think they are in love.
But I have learned that the determinant 2 of the those 5 are “Convenience” and “Benefits”.
If one or both suffer, people start to look for the exit sign.
That’s when you hear shit like;
“I love you but this isn’t working for me”
“it isn’t you, it is me”
or the very best of them all,
Interesting thing is, At that point, they are probably still attracted to you.
Probably still enjoy talking with you.
Probably still fond of you.
But they have benefitted all they could from you.
And being with you is probably not as convenient as it once was.
So they bounce. And that’s fine, because willingly they came, so willingly they should be able to leave. It will leave you gutted and often times confused, and while you may or may not have played a role in killing off the convenience or benefit quotient of the relationship, regret is possibly eating you up as well.
But always remember, that it isn’t (all) your fault.
So…next time you’re getting into a “loving relationship”, remember to stay convenient and beneficial.
Peace, Joy and SmallChops,